Posted by: benfrasier | April 30, 2007

so thats it?

I’m done.  My undergraduate education is finally over.  I’ve finished student teaching and I’m getting ready to drive to campus and turn in my portfolio, the last requirement I have to fulfill.

I’m now fully dedicated to looking ahead and finding my first teaching job.  I’ve sent dozens of applications out and have one interview already scheduled.  Unfortunately, music teachers are usually the last positions filled by principals each year.  Therefore its quite possible Kim and I could be in limbo until the end of July!  (A very scary thought!)

Wherever we end up, I’m certain that it will be an easy decision.  We have been praying for this decision for some time now, and we’re confident God will make His will clear and unmistakable.  Several of our friends have made career changes (or beginnings) lately, and the common thread in their decision was that God made the decision undeniable and easy to follow.

Its very comfortable to know God is creating our path because now the pressure is off me to find a job.  I just have to keep filling out applications and calling schools with the knowledge that one of those applications or calls will lead me to the job.  But I don’t have to get discouraged when it seems nothing if moving forward or I’ve hit a dead end.

Posted by: benfrasier | March 3, 2007

checking in

So its been a while blog world. Life has resumed its steady pace since the wreck. Here are some updates.

1. I bought a 2000 Nissan Altima with the insurance check and a little bit of savings. It is very similar to my Corolla (its even the same color), but it is a little larger and seems like an upgrade. It drives well and seemed to be in good condition.

2. Student teaching has been going well. I was observed by my professor two weeks ago at the middle school and it went very well. My professor had many positive things to say about my performance. Its great finally get a chance to participate in my profession after studying about it for too many years.

3. Before our first day of student teaching, I attended a few seminars at UK. One point made was that as a student teacher, you need to develop thick skin. Amen to that. It seems that almost every middle school class contains a few very vocal bad attitudes. Yesterday, I had a student tell me that he was going to quit band because of me. (I made him put up his instrument after making farting noises.)

4. After dealing with a student’s bad attitude its very tempting to discount that student as a bad apple. But if I believe that God has created every person in his image, then I can’t give up on kids that I perceive as hopeless. This struggle can seem impossible at times. Pray for patience and humility in me.

5. This time of year usually gets me thinking about Greenwood Park’s church camp. As the temperature starts to creep toward the warm side I get goosebumps about walking up the gravel road to the ball-field, seeing the path to the creek covered in fog, and sitting on the porch of the lodge on Saturday night before the kids arrive. That little spot in Holland, KY is probably the most sacred ground on Earth to me.

6. Our small group at Crossroads Christian Church is going well. Sometimes I feel so unprepared in facilitating this group. Generally, I get anxious about events or things that have no formula or rubric to follow. But I think it will strengthen my faith to rely on God in uncertain situations. Luckily, the small group practically leads itself. So I really shouldn’t worry about anything.

Posted by: benfrasier | February 3, 2007

Some pics from the wreck




Posted by: benfrasier | January 22, 2007

good start to the week

So I was in my first wreck today. As I drove to George Rogers Clark (GRC) High School in Winchester, I was hit by a lady driving a big SUV. I was driving on Bypass Road, which is the major road in Winchester. I was approaching an intersection with the green light pointed toward me. I noticed a bunch of cars turning left from the opposite lane. The last car in the group was obviously just following the cars in front of her and did not notice my approaching headlights. She noticed me just after turning and stopped in my lane. I tried to swerve to the right to avoid her, but she tried to turn at the same time which led to our collision.

While her car avoided any real damage, my car is in real bad shape and is undrivable. Thankfully, I didn’t suffer any injuries. I actually remember seeing the airbags deploy as my car impacted her’s. After my car stopped I got out and let out a sigh of relief that I was all in one piece. I think I’ve suffered more mental trauma than physical. It was wonderful to see Kim when she picked me up from GRC.

Note on calling spouses after a wreck: Don’t say “I can’t feel anything.” Because that leads your spouse to believe you have been paralyzed. It is better to say “I’m not hurt.” This phrase is much clearer.

Posted by: benfrasier | January 20, 2007

That dern youth minister tagged me :)

I’ve been tagged by Lee. Here ya go.

Here is how it works:
1) Grab the book closest to you
2) Open to page 123, go down to the fourth sentence
3) Post the text of the following three sentences
4) Name the author and book title
5) Tag three people to do the same

The burial-place had got to the pass that its little heaps of poor grass were undistinguishable from one another; the figure on the Cross might have come down, for anything that could be seen of it. In the village, taxers and taxed were fast asleep. Dreaming, perhaps, of banquets, as the starved usually do, and of ease and rest, as the driven slave and the yoked ox may, its lean inhabitants slept soundly, and were fed and freed.
The fountain in the village flowed unseen and unheard, and the fountain at the chateau dropped unseen and unheard — both melting away, like the minutes that were falling from the spring of Time–through three dark hours.

This quote is from Charles Dickens masterpiece, A Tale of Two Cities. My musical analysis teacher referenced this book a lot so I decided to read it. I also wanted to challenge myself to read something that is considered a classic. Don’t ask me what is going on during this quote because I haven’t gotten that far yet.

I would tag other people but all my blogger friends have already been tagged.

Posted by: benfrasier | January 14, 2007

An education on David Beckham

Jon Carter gives a brief overview of David Beckham’s career in light of his recent agreement with the L.A. Galaxy.

Posted by: benfrasier | January 14, 2007

Reconciliation with God

So Lynn, the guy who supports small group leaders at Crossroads, gave Kim and I a book entitled, Making Small Groups Work by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend. The first two chapters are basically an argument why small groups are important. Basically, they state that mankind has been constantly reconciling our relationship with God since Adam and Eve decided to take life into their own hands. The authors state that small groups allow that reconciliation to happen.

The authors presented six aspects that were important toward reconciliation with God. Here they are:

  • See God as the source of life and all we need.
  • See relationship as our primary need in life, with him and other people.
  • Seek and practice grace and forgiveness.
  • Submit to God as the boss.
  • Seek his ways to live.
  • Let God be in control of the world and others; develop control of oneself.

I’ve found myself thinking about the last aspect. It suggests that we can display self-control, but we don’t feel responsible for what happens around us. Mentally, this seems to be a very healthy perspective because I have no control of what happens around me. For me, worring about my circumstances can often take over my mind. If I allow God to control my circumstances my only concern will be my reaction.

Posted by: benfrasier | January 11, 2007

student teaching

So I just finished my second day of student teaching, and I already think that my experience has been extremely valuable… even if I quit tomorrow.  Todd, my cooperative teacher, said, “If I could offer only one piece of advice, it would be that the students respond to a happy teacher.  They aren’t used to seeing adults who are happy.”

That comment struck as being very simple yet profound at the same time.  I also think it is just the message I need to hear.  Because of my young looks, I always feel like I have to fight for the respect of students.  There is this fear in me that I’m not taken seriously because I look more like a teenager than an adult who has completed a college degree program.  So out of fear I try to be hard-nosed and withdrawn from the students I interact with.

After thinking over Todd’s advice, I think I’ve been doing it all wrong.  Now, my goal is to simply display the joy that I truly have inside me.  I serve a great Lord who loves me.  I have a great relationship with my beautiful and thoughtful wife.  I’m in a small group of genuine people who are much fun to be around.  Why should I forget these things when I walk into a classroom?

Posted by: benfrasier | January 4, 2007

rehabbing from the holidays

It feels great to be back in Lexington for a while. We’ve traveled to B.G. for the past three weekends, and I’m ready to avoid Bluegrass Parkway for a while. But our times in B.G. were a lot of fun. I’m very thankful for the time I get to spend with the little bros since our time together is limited. I basically spent the majority of the New Year’s weekend playing XBOX 360 and Wii with Luke and Edward.

The Music City Bowl was a blast. Kim and I ventured to Nashville with the family minus Luke, who was in Birmingham. I never imagined that UK would blow open the score as much as they did. Of course the final score only had us eight points ahead, but that was the result of two fourth-quarter touchdowns by Clemson. It felt great to pull out a win after all those close calls in the past including Tennessee in 2001 and 2006 (we basically had both games won), Florida in 2002 (Jared Lorenzen’s falling interception), LSU in 2002 (the Hail Mary touchdown pass that touched two UK defender’s hands before falling into an LSU receivers hand), and Arkansas in 2003 (a 7 overtime loss).

Of course it was ironic that this victory came against the school Kim received her Master’s degree from. It was an odd sight to see Kim wear her orange shirt but cheer for UK. Kim even brought a Clemson flag to hang on the van. Luckily the UK flag was much larger than the Clemson one.

Now I’m focused on passing the two music tests of the Praxis series.  I’m also about to begin my student teaching placement at George Rogers Clark high school.  I’m very excited about having a new adventure this semester.  I don’t think I could take another semester of classes.  Thankfully, I received lots of professional attire for Christmas.  I haven’t yet grasp how weird it will be to not wear jeans and a hoody everyday.

Posted by: benfrasier | December 15, 2006

sad year for U.S. soccer fans

An interesting read by Mark Starr of Newsweek about the past year of U.S. soccer.

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